Get Back At The Ex - 5 Simple Tips

Relationships are kind of like a house of cards; one bad move, and years of built up emotions come crashing down (and out). Break ups happen, and they are simply part of life. Many have the natural reaction of wanting to exact revenge on our ex for wronging us. We have to ask ourselves, “Is this the right thing to do?” Some of the ways you can “get back” at your ex, also happen to be ways of bringing your ex back to you. Ironically, they actually can show your ex how much you mean to them.

1. Be Strong - No one needs a person who is needy as they say, so you must maintain composure. By all means avoid acting, or appearing desperate, even if you are. If your ex sees you not concerned with them, it will naturally re-attract them to you. Sometimes, you don’t know what you have until it’s gone. Let this work for you.

2. Keep Contact To A Minimum - This may seem counter intuitive when you’re trying to fix things, but it is one of the most important steps to getting back at, or with your ex. Let them wonder what you’re up to. Stepping away for a little while is extremely effective, in this scenario. Your ex will be able to clear his or her mind, and realize how special your relationship was.

3. Go With The Flow - Instead of screaming for your ex to move out immediately, just agree with your ex. Be a sympathizer, and try to see their point of view. This will quite frankly shock your ex. They will be surprised at this side of you, and possibly reopen the lines of communication.

4. Get Out! – You should not be sulking at home alone. Go hang out with the friends you probably neglected when you were with your ex. Your friends can be a great support system while you are getting back on your feet. Even a few casual dates can be very healthy. They will boost your self-esteem, and make your ex jealous, if he or she finds out. That doesn’t hurt in this case.

5. Just Be Yourself – You attracted your ex for a very specific reason. You need to remember that you were a person that appealed to your ex, and you still are. Having a healthy self-perception, and emitting positive vibes will work well in all situations in life.

Advice On How To Get The Ex Back

Thank you for checking out my blog which offers advice on how to get the ex back. Not only that, but I will be covering all topics related to coping after a break up. I will show you how to break up gracefully, if that's what you feel is best; and I will also show you ways to get the ex back. Look, I have been there before, so that's the whole purpose of this blog. I got some really useful break up tips when I was struggling with being dumped. They really helped. I hope I can return the favor!

Okay, so the first lesson is one in reverse psychology you could say. Or maybe a better analogy would be judo, which teaches you to use someones own force against them. Hopefully you are getting this advice before, or soon after your breakup, as it works best at that time. If not, don't worry, there are plenty of tactics for getting your ex back. So basically it works as follows...

When your about to be ex first proposes a break up, you want to completely agree with the action. You want to act like you are totally fine with that idea, and almost relieved. I know this works from experience. I did it once early in a relationship, and my girlfriend at the time totally flipped out! I still had not fell for this girl, so I just said "okay", when she said, "Maybe we should break up?". Her face dropped. She did not expect it. In your scenario you will be probably bluffing, but it works all the same. It's time to put your poker face on.

Let's go back to the judo example. Say you are holding on tightly to someone, and they start to pull away. They expect to feel that resistance. But what happens if you instantly let go? They actually fall! Lesson number one; be cool with the break up. My mentor on this topic, TW Jackson, explains it a lot better than me. Check out his video on "your opening move". His book "The Magic Of Making Up" is definitely recommended reading. It's the best book I have ever read on the subject, in my opinion. Be sure to check back frequently for free tips on how to get your ex back. Also remember to get my free report, "10 Ways To Get The Ex Back". These tips will definitely come in handy if you're trying to get your ex back.