How NOT To Get The Ex Back

So I'm sure you have read plenty of articles on "how to" get the ex back, but today I will strictly focus on "how not" to get the ex back. You might consider me an absolute expert in this field, as I have tried every single one of these horrible tactics when trying to get ex's back, at one time or another. In fact while I'm on the subject, let me explain how I became a "relationship expert" in the first place.

Quite honestly, I was the dude I'm going to be telling you not to be from here on out. I have to admit I knew absolutely nothing about the laws of attraction, or the proper methods to getting the ex back. I messed up so many relationships, and then tried to get them back so many ways, I learned what NOT to do first. Finally, with a little insight from others, and plain trial and error, I figured a lot of this stuff out. So believe me when I say I know what I'm talking about. I have more than "been there, done that", when it comes to relationship troubles. Just keep in mind, that if someone like me can get his stuff straight, anyone can! So here's what NOT to do to get your ex back.

1. Come immediately running back saying, "I'm sorry baby. I'll change this time. I promise!
2. Write an emotional, heart-felt letter about how you are a jerk, and they are the best thing known to man.
3. Call them up yelling about how it's all their fault, and they could have been a better girlfriend.
4. Ask their brother/sister/mother what happened, and ask them if they can talk to her for you.
5. Go to their job, and ask if you can talk to them for a minute.(aka stalking)

As I have stated before, your first move is to chill, step back, and play cool as the Fonz. The above tactics do NOT work. I tried them. You need to step away, and clear your head. Then and only then, you will be ready to proceed.

Get The Ex Back - First Move

Ok, so you just got dumped. What's your first move to get the ex back?. Well it takes a good poker face, but you would be well suited to wear one. You do not want to show your real emotions at this point, you have to remain cool.

Reacting with emotion at this point will only push your ex further away. You have to give them space if they pull away. They expect you to hold on, so if you just let go, you use thier own power against them. They are the ones who may end up falling. Does that make sense?

The best first move after getting dumped, would be to completely agree with the break up. You want to come across as almost relieved that the relationship is over. That would be the best play. You don't want to seem like a jerk, just agree, and even mention that you had been thinking the same thing.

You might be saying to yourself, "Well I'm way past that point. I have already spilled my guts and sobbed like a baby to my ex". It's okay, you can still save face by pulling back and composing yourself. The effect won't be quite as strong, but you cannot continue to show weakness if you want to get the ex back. It's pretty simple really, weakness is not attractive; Being confident, happy, and full of life is. So even if you feel like a loser, you would be doing yourself a favor to play it cool. You have to suck it up, and keep your head held high. This is the best first step to get the ex back in your life.